Thursday, March 26, 2009

My Adopted Son, Nguyen Ngoc Tan

Nguyen Ngoc Tan
Tan lives in Florida.With his beautiful wife Linda.They're blessed with one child, a son...
a kind, and good looking smart child.
Let's go fishing; it's a fabulous day! Tan was my student in PFAC
and will always be a son to me.
And I mean it.



Note: This page will soon go with a beautiful story about Tan.

Tuesday, March 24, 2009

My Former Colleagues Ann Cusack and Adrian Seviour

Vietnamese Refugee Center Education Staff (Palawan, Spring 1981)
on our way to Cowrie Island on Honda Bay, Puerto Princesa City. Seen in the pictures are Lien, Marian, Tony, Andrew, Zeny, Josie, Leny, Diep, Rubi, Evelyn, Lesley, An Thu, Huy and Letty. (I forgot the names of all the others.)
My friend Dr. Luis Medrano
Father Kenneth and Andy
My friend and colleague Ann Cussack

ANN CUSACK
Ann Cusack brought some innovative ideas to our school. Anne was an excellent poet and she brought poetry into the classroom. She incorporated poetry in her lessons and her students loved the poems that she herself had written. I love music and Ann enjoyed my company because of my singing, which she described as outstanding. I believe she and I became best friends because we both loved arts- I music and she poetry. One day I fell ill and Ann wrote a poem and dedicated it to me to brighten my day. In return I wrote her a poem describing how fortunate I was to have her as a friend. Since then I have been writing poems and getting better as time goes by.

ADRIAN SEVIOUR
Adrian was a quiet person. He would socialize with us but wouldn’t normally speak unless spoken to first. I am the kind of person that will always approach someone whom I see is feeling left out. I decided to always sit and talk with Adrian at school meetings or during parties or social functions in the camp. One day, Adrian found a best friend in the person of Rubi Diao. Ann also found more comfort socializing with her Vietnamese friends. I then focused my attention on my Vietnamese friends. After a year, Adrian returned to England wrote a letter once and then we lost contact. The following year, Ann returned to Australia. The next thing I knew was that she had moved to California and married her Vietnamese fiancĂ© that she met in the camp.
 Adrian is the gentleman sitting next to Sammy.

*****

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

I Love "Huy" Like a Son!

From left to right: Nhon, Toan, Can, Thanh, Vu, Thinh, Tran, Truong, Du, Long, Hoa, Andy, Le Phuong, Quyen, Phuong Thao, Huong Thao, and Dien. I have contact with the students, whose names are bolded.
This is my last photograph with my Grade 12 Students in PFAC Palawan. Huy is not in the picture because he was in Manila or Bataan when this was taken. Most of these former students are now living in the United States, some in Australia. And most of them still communicate with me after 18 long years.

"HUY" IS LIKE A SON TO ME!
 
 
It was one sunny afternoon in PFAC… in July 1991. What a scorcher it was! I was teaching my Grade 12 afternoon class when suddenly I was interrupted by my three morning session students, who rushed into my classroom, running after their breaths and screamed, “Teacher Andy, Huy is crying wildly. He’s out of control. He’s calling your name.” I learned then that Huy had just received the Bureau of Immigration’s decision, which determined that he was not a political refugee and that, as an unaccompanied minor, he would be better off going back to Vietnam and be reunited with his family.
 

Huy then went into a wild crying in front of the CADP sisters, screaming that he wanted to commit suicide. The CADP sisters did everything they knew to pacify him, but to no avail, the poor young man wouldn’t stop crying and telling everyone that he was better off dead than return to his country of origin. He continued crying and screaming for two to three hours until he couldn't scream anymore. He gently said, “I want my Daddy! I want my Daddy.” The CADP Sisters were astonished. They wondered how they could get Huy’s father when his dad was too far away in Vietnam. “Your dad is in Vietnam," one of the sisters whispered. We can’t get him for you.” Then he murmured, “Sister, I want my daddy, please. His name is teacher Andy.” Upon hearing what Huy had just said, the three students who were there rushed to my classroom and told me the story. “But I’m teaching," I firmly said. "Please tell the sisters that I'll see Huy at 5:00.” The students then insisted, “Teacher, this is serious. Please come now. Huy is threatening to kill himself. He wouldn’t listen to anyone. He said he wanted you. Please Teacher, come now. Huy is your son… (said in Vietnamese language) he will definitely listen to you.” I dropped my piece of chalk and eraser, asked my assistant teacher to look after the class, and then I ran to the CADP Unaccompanied Minors Office as rapidly as I could.
 
I found “my son” lying down on a couch, crying and seemingly exhausted. When he saw me, he sat up and put his arms around me, tightly I could hardly breathe, and said, “Daddy, I don’t wanna go back. I’d rather die.” I didn’t know what to say to calm him down. I got choked up. I just kissed his forehead, brushed his hair with my fingers and whispered, “I’m here for you, son. Get up and come with me. I’ll take care of you. I will protect you. Nobody will take you anywhere.” I tried to control myself but my tears started rolling down my cheeks. Huy stood up and started walking with me.
 
I looked around and saw two CADP sisters, a social worker, and my three other students looking on not comprehending what was going on. When I told them that I was going to take Huy home with me, they agreed without hesitation. Then one of the sisters said, “I didn’t know that Huy was referring to you when he said he wanted his daddy. I didn’t know you were like a father to him.” I didn't know if they were joking but I responded, “It doesn’t matter, Sister. I love this boy. He’s my son and he considers me as his dad.” Then I left with my arms on Huy’s shoulders.
 
Huy stayed with me at the HTC-PFAC staff house for a week. I advised him not to go to school... just stay home, sit back, relax, read some books, and play games with his friends while I was teaching. And he did just that. But from time to time I would secretly go back to the house to check if he was all right. After one week, he told me, “Dad I think I’m okay now. I will go home to my billet tomorrow.” The following day I let him go and everything seemed back to normal.
 
Huy regained his almost lost self-esteem as he resumed his studies in my Grade 12 class. In that class he was quite a popular student and was admired by all his peers. He was very smart, friendly, and exceptionally confident. After class, we would spend time together like a family. Sometimes he would eat at my place, and sometimes in a restaurant. His English, especially his oral communication skills, improved dramatically. But then one day, in April 1992, he told me that he was going with a friend to visit Manila and Bataan. I told him, “Son, you can’t leave now. Aren’t you aware that I’m leaving for Canada on June 29? I want you to be here when I leave”. He responded, “Daddy, I’m sorry but I already have a ticket. I’m leaving this Sunday.” Huy left that Sunday, April 12, 1992. A couple of months later, I left for Manila... then California, then Canada. That was it. Huy and I lost contact. I felt as though I had lost a son.
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Huy is a fictitious name. I deliberately changed his real name to protect his identity although he gave me the option whether to use his real name or not. Huy now lives happily in the United States with his family and is in contact with me. We have been reunited and we call each other as often as we can. He still calls me "Daddy" and I still call him "Son". That will never change. And indeed, I love Huy like a son.
 
OOO

Saturday, March 14, 2009

The Snake Island, Honda Bay Palawan

The splendid Snake Island is very close to Viet Ville.

The Snake Island is on Honda Bay in the city of Puerto Princesa. It is accessible by motor boat from Santa Lourdes Wharf. It doesn't cost you a penny to use the island, but the motor boat will cost you approximately $40 US each, and can accommodate 12 to 14 people.
This is the map of Palawan.

The aerial view of Snake Island. Does it look like a snake? Spectacular!
It's me, the third from the left, when I visited the Snake Island in August 2008.

Saturday, March 7, 2009

IMPECCABLE! A Tribute to My Mother

Our Lady of Antipolo
This mural is painted on the wall in the basement of
Immaculate Conception Cathedral in Washington D.C.

Through your vivid examples and sometimes symbolic
I learned the true meaning of being a friend
You gave me courage and impeccable Love
Taught me generosity and to live close to God

You bestowed upon me the beauty of your soul
The joy that forgiveness and humility offer
Your wisdom and confidence, irreproachable character
Your optimism and faith... to love God above all

From you I learned the value of optimism
To embrace the challenges that I encounter
To face the world with impeccable strength
To be open-minded, live my life to the fullest

You said that life was not at all easy
Not a bed of roses nor milk and honey
That life was full of ups and downs, of obstacles
What might come next, incomprehensible

You said that life was a continuous battle
An endless struggle to overcome all
A test of endurance to withstand any hardship
No one really knows what follows next

You inspired me to pursue my education
To set my ultimate goal and be successful
Your untiring guidance, your confidence in me
Pushed me to strive and make my dream a reality

You were impeccable, my idol... my role model
If I should be grateful to someone, or anyone
It would be only you, to whom I definitely owe
The absolute person that I am today

You surely deserve a perfect gold medal
A round of applause and a standing ovation
But it's sad to say that you had left me
Before I had the opportunity to give it to you

I know for a fact that I've physically lost you
But your personality is reflected in all that I do
The complete person of yours dwells deep within me
And will linger today, tomorrow, and eternally
Oh how much I love you impeccably!


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Friday, March 6, 2009

My Perspectives on Life

At the Grand Union Station in Washington D.C. (March 2008)
At the steps of Lincoln Memorial in Washington D.C. (March 2008)
University Avenue downtown Toronto (August 2007)
At Casa Linda Inn in Puerto Princesa City with Van and Mona (August 2008)
I hadn't seen Mona for over 16 years.



WHAT IS HAPPINESS TO ME?
 
Happiness to me is knowing that every day I have a great opportunity to contribute to my community and to the world in general. Every morning I'm grateful to the Lord for giving me the opportunity to make a lasting impression in other people's lives.

I have a great sense of humor! I'm intelligent and loving and caring. I am fascinated by the similarities of people around the world regardless of their cultures and races. I don't focus on people's differences.
 
Everybody likes me because I'm funny, straight-forward, and impeccably honest. I like to validate people in anyway that I can. I strongly believe that it is a natural human nature to long for validation.
 
I like to help. It gives me so much joy and heart's contentment to be able to make a difference in other people's lives, especially the less fortunate.

I believe that the comfort of the students in my classroom is very vital. When the students are at ease with their teacher and with one another they learn much better.

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It was Definitely a Blessing Having Had YOU in My Class, Minh Chuong!

These pictures were taken at Miles High Park in Orange County, California during our class reunion on December 26, 2007.
PFAC Palawan
June 19, 1992

Dear Sir!

"No guide. How can you succeed?" This is what I translate from a Vietnamese proverb that I learned when I was younger. It's right, Sir! If I hadn't had you, Teacher Benny, and Teacher Babes, and all the teachers in HTC-PFAC School, what would I be like now? I know I'm not the first one who benefited from your class, but what I gained helped me shine in my own azure sky. I couldn't ask for more. I'm satisfied by it; it is an extra dream of mine.

Before I thought I was living in vain. "Every single night and day is passing by. Where is the place that I am". I thought I couldn't point it out. In my lifetime the light was less than the dark. I was frustrated. Fortunately I have met you. You're like the torch to enlight and the key to unlock my way.

I thank God he gave me a chance to come to HTC School and especially to your class. Whatever I got from you I will keep it in my heart; I will treasure and protect it; I will cherish it. One day I was your student. I'm still and will be forever. Finally, I wish you success in whatever you do. Wherever you go I will pray for you. Have a good luck and a happy trip back home.

Your student,
Minh Chuong

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

My Former Student Huong Thao's Heartfelt Letter (May 31, 1992)

One day Huong Thao and I will meet again.
Tuan, Huong Thao, My Ly and Kiera (San Diego, CA 2008)

PFAC Palawan
May 31, 1992

Dear Sir,

The time has gone so rapidly. Just more than two years studying in your class and you're now leaving your students, leaving behind your back those golden times that you had spent with us in order to reunite with your beloved betterhalf. It's too painful when we're far away from one another but we're just human beings who deserve to enjoy the best in life. I know you are now anxious about everything for the future, how to live for the better tomorrow, and how to manage your new family. You have to start out a new life totally. But I guess, with your competence, you'll be able to overcome all the challenges that come your way.

I wish you all success and happiness in your new life. You are a very good teacher. Everything that you have imparted to us is really meaningful especially to me. Having been with you for two years, I have had lots of wonderful and unforgettable experiences that I'll definitely never forget and that I will carry with me wherever I go. With your gracious support, guidance, and love, you have completely built me up to what I have become today.

I'd like to say thank you from the buttom of my heart. "Our deepest gratitude, our tearful and heartfelt farewell..."

On behalf of the Grade 12 students, THANK YOU! I will pray for your future family. I hope all your dreams become a reality.

Your student,
Huong Thao

P.S. I hope we can meet again someday in the future. So we shouldn't say "Good bye" now, 'coz goodbye is forever- we never meet each other again.

Huong Thao and I are yet to be reunited.  She lives in Houston, Texas and is married.



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Sunday, March 1, 2009

My Student Phuong Thao's Splendid Letter (May 31, 1992)

HTC-PFAC School
May 31, 1992

Dear Sir,

Sometimes I really feel so sad when I have to see off someone though I know, "All good things must come to an end". It's been three years since I came to your class, a class that has become my second home. To me you're like my father or older brother. God has brought you into the lives of the refugees. God has brought you to us... to me. It's all God's plan. I thank God for giving me the chance to meet you and know you. I think there are no words strong enough to express my feelings now. Deep inside my heart, I feel that something special is about to disappear. I will forever remember everything that you've done for the class. "Come on, try it." Those are the words that you always say to encourage me to speak when deep inside I am nervous.
Binh and Phuong Thao were both my students in PFAC.

Three years in your class were too short for me to learn enough from you. I wish I could stay in your class much longer but you're leaving. There's no telling what will happen in the future. I don't know what will I become in the future but hopefully, some of your inspiring psychology lessons will help me. I don't think you will ever forget us. In my case, I will always remember you. You're the first teacher that I've become so close.

With my prayers, I sincerely hope that you find happiness in the future.

Your student,

Phuong Thao
Phuong Thao is the one in black. She and my other former students visited me in Orange County in December 2007. Also in the picture are Vu, Vinh Hao, Van, and me. Thao's husband - Binh took this picture.


March 1, 2009

Dear Thao,

You see? I've never forgotten you. I'm so glad that you and Binh, who are both very special to me and whom I consider a family ended up together and became better halves. Congratulations on the birth of your handsome baby boy Aiden, (like father, like son) simply adorable. I'll see you this Christmas.

As ever,

Andy